Trigger points

We don't really understand why some events bring on our inner imposter. However, many experts have identified some trends.

In there article Three Secret Impostor Syndrome Triggers (That Aren’t About Self-Confidence) (forbes.com), Heather Moulder explains that 3 triggers seem to be common.

• Holding yourself to impossible standards.
• Trying to control your environment.
• Comparing yourself to others.

Having high standards is a good thing. It means you care. However, impossible standards are harmful. Notice when the standards or goals are motivating you, inspiring you and give you excitement. That's positive. When it causes stress, anxiety and sleepless nights, then you may have bitten off more than you can chew. It's time to reassess, reset and maybe ask for help.

Trying to control your environment is a very human trait. We like to feel in control. But the inner control freak can cause all kinds of problems for us and everyone else around us. When we take on too much, we can feel out of control and seek to reclaim control in any way we can. This might lead us to micromanage, work harder and not delegate.

Comparing yourself to others is always dangerous if it knocks your self esteem or self-belief. If it motivates you or inspires you, great. However, be careful who you compare yourself too. You only know part of the story and might be setting yourself up against impossible standards. Remember, social media generally only shows someones best sides. You don't see all sides of a person. You also don't see all of the sacrifices, work, effort and time they have spent getting to their perceived success.

Tara Halliday, another expert talks about the trigger point of challenge vs support.

We can all take on big challenges if we have adequate support. Even small challenges without support can feel overwhelming and impossible. 

Listen to Tara explain how Imposter syndrome works here.