In every situation, we imagine how we think it will turn out. We think about the day ahead, and how we think it will go. We might think of the meeting in an hour, and imagine how people will respond. We all create movies in our minds.
In our Minds, we all have a Movie:
• How we want our life to be
• What our ideal days look like
• Who we want to become
• What we want to achieve
Issue: Other people don’t know our vision and we don’t know theirs. So when people don't behave in the way we imagined, or the traffic slows us down, or the computer freezes, our perfect vision gets shaken.
You can hold your Movies inside your mind and move forward, bumping into others along the way. How are people supposed to know what you want or how you think things should be if you don't share your vision?
A case study
Sheila was continually frustrated that people weren't doing what she wanted them to do. She thought she was giving clear instructions via email or in meetings, and yet people just didn't do what she wanted.
During our coaching sessions she realised that she told people what to do, but didn't share her vision of what done looks like, or how she thought it should be or even when it needed to be done by.
Her homework for the week was to start sharing the movies in her mind, slow down and communicate a little more. She was staggered at the response. Her people now got her. They asked clarifying questions, responded positively, shared their perspectives and delivered successfully,
Sheila return 2 weeks later saying, "I had no idea that just because I could see everything clearly in my mind, that I had been skipping steps and expected everyone to be mind readers."
Solution:
Share your Movie (vision) with others. Take a moment longer to explain and share - bringing your vision to life.
Take time to learn about others perspectives. Ask them how they see things or what done looks like to them.
Create a new movie that you both direct. If you are on different pages, how can you create a shared vision of what done looks like?
Track and encourage each other’s progress.
Most importantly: COMMUNICATE
- Be transparent
- Build respect and relationships
- Understand others perspectives
- Step into their shoes and understand their views
- Create a Vision of Shared Success
- Give support
- Tell the truth – close reality gaps
Remember
The more transparent you are, the more others can see, hear and understand your vision, expectations and your WHY.
Take action to be clear and transparent in your communication.
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